The Average Net Worth For The Above Average Married Couple


Average net worth for the above average married coupleOne of the most popular posts on Financial Samurai with over 800 comments is The Average Net Worth For The Above Average Person. The “above average person” is loosely defined as someone who graduated from college (35% of the American population), works hard, plays well with others, takes full advantage of their pre-tax retirement plans, saves additional disposable income, stays on top of their finances by utilizing free financial tools, expects nothing from their parents or the government and is not delusional. If you were a “C student” and expect to live an “A lifestyle,” you are definitely not the above average person!

Take a moment to study the above average person’s net worth chart again. Somewhere between the ages of 45-50, the above average person’s net worth reaches over one million dollars. We can all agree that thanks to inflation, easy monetary policy, a roaring bull market and a recovery in real estate, becoming a millionaire by the time we retire is fast becoming the rule, rather than the exception.

The Average Net Worth For The Above Average Person by Financial Samurai

It’s important to note the figures in my chart are for individuals and not for couples. For those of you who combined your household net worth to see where you stand, so sorry. That’s cheating. At the same time, not everybody can find someone they love hence why I initially created a per person chart. It would be presumptuous to assume we can all live in marital bliss. Not everybody is even allowed to get married thanks to the government telling us who we can and cannot be with. For simplicity’s sake, I will refer to “married couples” as anybody who is in a long term relationship.

This article will come up with reasonable “above average couple net worth” charts based on what I think, what the government thinks, what you think, and the realities of life. One can also define “above average” as one standard deviation beyond the midpoint of the normal distribution curve (top 16%). Not every couple can be above average. But every couple can certainly try.


Everybody knows that married couples who stay together have a financial advantage over single people. Couples can split a $2,500 a month two bedroom apartment two ways instead of paying a full $2,000 a month for a one bedroom as an individual. It’s much more efficient and cheaper to cook for two.  Meanwhile, there are probably plenty of buy one get one free specials too. The economies of scale are everywhere for couples.

Before we go about the exercise of figuring out the net worth of the above average couple, let’s take a moment to define an above average couple.

* Stays together for the long term.

* Discusses long term financial goals e.g. retirement age.

* Does not keep financial secrets.

* Knows their monthly budget like the back of their hand.

* Makes sure  their net worth risk exposure is aligned with their goals.

* Shares expenses in a fair way.

* Supports each other’s careers and endeavors.

* Works together as a team to get things done.

* Seeks to understand the other side of a story during conflicts and come to a middle ground.

* Plans for the financial expense of children even if they don’t or can’t have any.

* Each spouse can financially support themselves if the relationship ends.


The Equality Method

The equality method basically states that a man and a woman are equal. Given both sexes are equal, it is only logical to conclude that both spouses study hard in school, work, save, and invest for the future before and after meeting each other. One simply has to double the amounts in my above average person net worth chart to get to the Equality Net Worth chart.

Average Net Worth For Married Couples - Equality Method

Some of you argue that men and women are not equal and will therefore disagree with how high the figures are in the Equality Net Worth chart. I’m not sure which century or country you are living in, but males and females are equal here in America at least. If they are not equal in your country please share in the comments section why.

Meanwhile, some of you will argue that the figures are too low because there are tremendous financial synergies in a relationship. Since you can’t have synergies before you actually meet, it’s better to simply double the above average net worth per person figures to stay conservative. Independence is a core part of Americana, except for grown adults who still live with their parents.

Discrimination and sexism is wrong therefore I am a strong proponent of the Equality Net Worth method.

The Government Taxation Method

The government taxation method incorporates their latest desire to raise federal income taxes on individuals making over $400,000 a year and married couples making over $450,000 a year. The government is sexist and believes one spouse should drop his/her $400,000 income and be a stay at home spouse or make no more than $50,000 a year as soon as the couple settles down.

Given the government is predominantly made up of men, one can assume the government is showing sexism towards women. The inference is that women cannot have a lucrative career and be a mother at the same time. Clearly the government has never met Sheryl Sandberg of Facebook or Marissa Mayer of Yahoo. No work from home for you!

A combined income of $450,000 provides only a 12.5% greater threshold than $400,000 for an individual. To get to the Government Taxation Net Worth chart below, we will increase the above average person’s net worth by 12.5% to comply with the government’s view on married people.

Average Net Worth For Couples - Government Tax Method Financial Samurai

If you love the government, are very traditional, and believe one spouse should probably stay at home then you are a proponent of the Government Taxation Net Worth method. Put it differently, you believe the wife is worth just 12.5% the value of the husband. By taking 75% off the value of one spouse, we account for a couple kids and a non working spouse before age 40. Again, we are regressing back to the days of Dowton Abbey when women couldn’t even vote to keep their inheritances.

The Financial Samurai Method

By now I’m sure I’ve upset many couples with my various conjectures about the Equality method and the Government Taxation method of figuring out the net worth for above average couples. What you are really upset about is the revelation of your own beliefs. It’s wrong to say one thing and do another e.g. voting to raise taxes on one group without having to pay more yourelf. Not to worry! Have some milk and cookies as I promise not to aggravate your nerves further.

The Financial Samurai Net Worth method provides a recognition there are financial synergies for being a couple. At the same time, the Financial Samurai method denounces government policies to its core for its sexist and discriminatory ways. Besides the ludicrous 12.5% increased allowance for married couples, the government only provides child tax credits, student interest deductions, and IRA contributions to those who make below a certain amount. It’s shameful to discriminate against hard working Americans who live in higher cost of living areas. The government should treat everyone equally and not pick and choose who gets to thrive and who gets to suffer.

I am a strong believer that each spouse should save and invest as an independent man or woman. Breakups happen all the time so it is imperative we count on nobody, not even the present love of our lives for financial survival. At the same time, there is no need to have double the property size presumably because a couple is sharing a room, a kitchen, a bathroom, a living room, a dining room, a garage, and a backyard. Let’s have a look at the chart.

Average Net Worth For Above Average Married Couple - Financial Samurai


* The average pre-tax savings (401k/IRA) and post-tax savings amounts double every year until age 40 and then only increase by 25% every five years after.

* After age 40, the savings rates increase by only 25% a year to account for early retirement of one spouse, if not both spouses.

* The average property equity increases by 25-50% every five years instead of 100% given you don’t need double the space to live together.

* The cost of kids is accounted for by the decrease in the increase of pre-tax savings, post-tax savings, and property equity increases.

* The above average married couple are millionaires by the time they reach 40 years old. They develop the optionality for one spouse to retire or find a different career that may not pay as much if so desired.

* By age 50 chances are high both spouses can retire provided they have sufficient passive income streams to cover all expenses.


The above average couple is based upon my assumptions of the above average person. Hence, please have a read of the article if you want to get more details about how I came up with my original net worth chart. Divorce is probably the most destructive act for an individual’s finances, but that is a topic for another day.

Not only do couples have roughly a 70% higher combined net worth than single folks, life is also more enjoyable when spent with someone you love. Just make sure to keep track of your finances and have open dialogues throughout the years. I hope everybody has found this exercise useful. Please share with me whether you agree or disagree with my charts and why. If you haven’t found that special someone yet, what are you waiting for?

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Updated for 2018 and beyond. It’s now more important than ever for couples to have an open dialogue about their finances and manage their money properly. The S&P 500 is up over 200% since February 2009. Make sure you do an investment checkup and rebalance your portfolio according to your risk tolerance and financial objectives.